相思成灾

我想着一袭长裙, 穿着十寸的高跟鞋,在洒满阳光的午后街道上, 和英武的男友接吻,拥抱
我想着一套性感的内衣,黑色,蕾丝且透明, 在雪白的大床上,伴着月光 和身材结实的男友上演午夜后的热闹,
我想要完美的爱情,白天,晚上,视觉,触觉...

完美的爱情. 应该来源于一见钟情吧, 似乎一直的等待 就是为了这一瞬间的出现, 然后, 那么自信的相信,从此以后,童话就变成了现实.

而在那决定乾坤的照面之前呢;
在光鲜,高贵的生活背后, 有太多的,都是空虚绝望的寻找
你挑剔着A的身材,你鄙夷着B的外貌, 你不喜欢C是因为他不能合拍于你那高贵的审美情趣
你显得是那么的无所畏惧,甚至是在享受着单身的愉悦
而每一天晚上
你在做什么呢?
也许,只是在寻找着短暂的高潮
太多空虚的灵魂在网络的世界中冲荡,肆意的释放着孤独中的绝望,却不肯委曲求全,放下自己的准则,去爱一个值得爱的人...

为什么爱?
因为身材
因为眼睛
因为气味
因为富有
或者 是因为缘分 注定要在一起


因为太固执于所谓的原则,所以 我们不肯去爱,因为太习惯了单身的日子,所以我们再也无法去爱
一直坚信着的准则,会否有错呢?

我说,坚持没有错误, 唯一需要确定的,
就是 自己坚持的, 不仅仅是一个想像中的偶像,
或者说, 我们真的该尽早等到想象破灭的那天,
从此, 才可以真正的脚踏实地的生活.

你可以是水仙
沉迷于自己水中的倒影,直到雪白的花瓣枯萎的那天,
也可以是茉莉
没有张扬的浓郁,确有着百转千回的芳香.

电影里面, 有一切的可能
会有金发的美女,和貌美的西班牙王子,并且永远有机会弥补自己的错误,遇到下一个生命中的唯一;
生活中的我
也许已经人老珠黄了.

共勉吧

Stop trying to cast your true love instead of just meeting him.Love isn`t always a lightning bolt.Maybe sometimes it`s just a choice.Maybe true love is a decision.A decision to take a chance with somebody.To give to somebody without worring whether they`ll give anything back.Or if they`re gonna hurt you or if they really are the one.Maybe love isn`t something that happens to you.Maybe it`s something you have to choose.

如果你是你会知道的。
记住，它是个巨人。你是个沉睡中的巨人。
你们认识才一个星期，别说得跟电影里的台词一样。
每天和前男友粘在一起不好，或许我可以把前男友变成现男友然后不用每天和他在一起了。
我看起来像奴隶么？
我不会坐进一辆比我的手提包还要便宜的车里面。
——他有外遇了
——你们才认识两个星期，他就有外遇了，她是谁？
——我，我刚刚发现，他结婚了。

——设计这些高跟鞋的人一定恨女人，谁设计的？
——我设计的。
——很不错，要不是这个设计，她就得用屁股走路。

——你到底哪里不对？
——基因！

My favorite line,

"Love isn't always a lightning bolt. Maybe sometimes it's just a choice. Maybe true love is a decision, a decision to take a choice with somebody. To give somebody without worrying whether they'll give anything back or if they're gonna hurt you or if they really are the one. Maybe love isn't something that happens to you. Maybe it's something you have to choose."

最近看了太多现实的电影，却很喜欢。Two Lovers，500 Days of Summer。
我们不再年幼，不应该再相信命中注定的人一定会出现这件事情。There's nothing in world called fate. 你觉得匆匆把某些人放过不要紧，因为he's not the one. But what if he is? What if the one has already showed up in your life and you haven't even given him a chance?
我们爱一些人，却和另一些人共度余生；我们相信自己已经遇到了谁，却没想到这个谁会转身离开，遇见他的the one.

Sometimes a serious relationship is far beyond us. Maybe just a random one can light the life up and totally change it! So please don't stuck in the middle of your life even if it's already a shit...

Love,and other disasters里一些有意思的台词，一点点抠出来保存，舍不得一笑置之而后遗忘。

1. The way to a man`s heart is through his stomach.

 英文说法似乎比中文“要绑住男人的心，就先绑住他的胃”更形象生动哦。

2. "Relationships are best measured by farting."

   " Excuse me?"

   " The stages of a relationship can be defined by farting. Stage 1 is the conspiracy of silence. This is fantasy period where both parties pretend that they have no bodily waste. This illusion is very quickly shatterd by that first shy "ooh,did you fart?"followed by the sheepish admission of truth. This heralds a period of deeper intimacy.A period I like to call the 'fart honeymoon' where parties find each other`s gas just the cutest thing in the world. But of course no honeymoon can last forever.And so we reach the critical fork in the fart.Either the fart lose its power to amuse and embarrass,thereby signifying true love or else,it begins to annoy and disgust,thereby symbolizing all that is blocked and rancid in the formerly beloved..."

用“屁”来考量爱的几个阶段，很油菜也不无道理。

 

3." Love is not always a lightning bolt,but maybe just a choice, u know? Maybe sometime it`s just a choice."

   "Maybe true love is a decision.U know a decision to take a chance with sb, to give to sb,without worrying whether they`ll give anything back or if they are gonna hurt u,or if they really are the one.Maybe love isn`t sth that happens to u.Maybe it`s sth that u have to choose."

关于什么是爱情或者什么是真爱，相信爱过的人或许比没有体验过爱情的人更茫然。没有经历过，可以凭借无数电视电影还是文学作品中的描述自由想象，以此定义心中的爱情，恋爱中的人其实更会困惑，爱情的标准是什么？Ta是我的真爱么？我们这样一起就是爱情么？

于是，很多电影作品都是以探讨“何为真爱”为主题，片中男女大多不懂爱不会爱，经历一番后最终领悟。想到Love actually里关于love同样有一段经典独白。不辞辛苦抠出来分享：


　"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow airport. General opinion makes out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. Seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy but it's always there. Fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, none of the phone calls from people on board were messages of hate or revenge, they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around."

 

4. True love is a process,not an event.

精辟。还需要别的语言么？NO.

Maybe true love is a decision, a decision to take a chance with somebody. To give to somebody without worrying whether they’ll give anything back or if they’re gonna hurt you or if they really are the one.Maybe love isn’t something that happens to you. Maybe it’s something you have to choose.We should find out that true love is an event, not a process.